I was catching-up recently with a writer/entrepreneur/visionary friend of mine on the phone. We were chatting about the "hit-me-over-the-head" reality of getting older...tick, tock, tick, tock, tick.... It's that automatic, never-have-to-wind up, universal mechanism that reminds us we just don't look, feel or do like we used to. Our conclusion at the end of the chat was....SO WHAT?
"SO WHAT?"... I''m not the moon-walkin', magnetic party animal I used to be. "SO WHAT".... I get a bit more compassionate when I see a turkey's neck. "SO WHAT"... It takes me a little longer to remember what your doggone name is. "SO WHAT"...my once biggest asset now takes up a seat & a half on the subway. SO WHAT? SO WHAT?
We may not look or feel like we used to, but heck ...at least something still jiggles... and I'm so glad I still have hair - somewhere- however short, sparse or patchy it is.
I've learned that personalities and spirit outline your curves. Holding onto a really positive flow of energy is probably the most important exercise routine I need to do daily.
Every stage of our lives is a remarkable trip. SO WHAT I need bifocals to see the road...I'm still the luckiest chick in the world. (Do they still say "chick"?)
I was moved beyond tears the other day when I called to check on a business colleague and friend. Called her a couple of times over the past 4-5 weeks, but didn't get any response. Not like her at all.
She answered this call. Stephanie first apologized for not returning my calls and then went on to say that she had been so terribly sick....her cancer returned. She's lost all of her beautiful hair again and seemed more angry than sad. I was a mess for the rest of the day. It's unfair that good people suffer. But, Stephanie has always been a trooper. She clenches the hugest fistful of courage I've ever witnessed. This one phone call exchange lit the fire in me.
Friends, please....don't take it for granted that you're safe from anything. Don't listen to the "rules" about the appropriate age to get cancer screened. Be proactive about your health. Get a mammogram; visit your GYN regularly.
This month, I'm asking you to help us, help others. We've chosen 3 cancer organizations to donate 15% of your purchases to:
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An extra pound here, another pound there. Over the last several months, somehow I managed to pack on 7 unaffordable pounds. I'm working out, not consuming an exorbitant amount of calories and trying to be mindful of getting my fruits & veggies in daily. Clearly and honestly, I'm frustrated. My discouragement could translate into a mental beat-down where I'm scolding myself about the billboard sized bulges that have now made me unattractive. Been there. Done that. Perish the thought!
The real truth is that being beautiful from the inside out means that my new wider curves don't translate into me being any less accepted, attractive or engaging. It's not my personality or spirit that tipped the scales. I refuse to imagine that people are staring and pointing at me saying, "Wow...look at her. She just put on 7 pounds.". Not.
So, what are you telling yourself when you've experienced a little setback? How you choose to speak about yourself has everything to do with owning your beauty - inside & out. Let's face it - if you don't feel proud, loving, exuberant, luscious, beautiful - you won't act it either, right? You really need to see the glass half full. Fill up on the good truths about yourself and watch the glass spill over.
So for the next several days practice this with me....... write down 3 qualities that make you unique, sexy and magnetic. Let those words be the only words you use to describe yourself. Beauty from the inside out is all about what pleases you and the other fellas eye. It's an energy, not a size. It's a spirit, not a size 6 shape. Watch what happens next!
Seems like Christmas and the whole New Year's hoopla was eons ago, right? Shockingly folks, it was just last month...a few slim weeks ago. If you made any Resolutions for the New Year, it's probably a good time to consciously review how your doing.
I started to think about the habits I committed to change....the folks I wanted to release from my circle and the projects I kept saying I wanted to complete....you know the ones that make you sound like a whiny, broken down, bootlegged , 8-track tape that's scratchy and annoying....but you keep listening to it.
Although I've made progress, I must admit, I've got a long ways to go. I love these times, however, when something jars my spirit enough to take my pulse and examine how far I've moved from where I was, to where I really want to be. For me, my goals and aspirations are better charted and reviewed on paper than thought up in this mish-mosh of a brain.
To help you stay on track.....print out our Resolution Progress Tracker. We'll check back in with you soon.
The whole world seems to be talking about the wonders of meditation theses days... spiritual "oneness"....the power to harness creative energy.....getting in tuned with your soul....you know, that kind of stuff. Heck, I've got loads of friends who start each and every day with 20-minutes of peaceful, purposeful, calming thoughtlessness. I've got books, audio cd's and a video collection that teaches how to gain peace and inner sanctity through meditation. The only problems for me is....I just can't seem to "get it". Can't empty my thoughts. Can't concentrate. Can't tell if I'm more enlightened or just simply sleepier.
I attended a workshop a couple of years ago with Russell Simmons, the mega mogul guru. He was promoting his new book, "Super Rich". Russell shared how he took baby steps to gaining inner peace and prosperity through the power of meditation. Now, it's part of his every breath and the foundation of h. The entire audience of about 300 people participated in a 5-minute meditative session - just pure concentration on breathing. So, for 5 minutes I concentrated.. on what I was having for dinner; how much money was in my wallet and my last 4 debit card purchases; what I was wearing for my date on Saturday night - the little black dress or the gold sweater with the peek-a-boo cleavage; and what time is this thing over?
It was useless for me. No hope. But I keep trying. Seems that meditation is the root to beauty, glamor, prosperity, love, peace and all that is revered. Now if that's what we all aim for, why aren't we all doing it??
What's your secret?
I so look forward to my first whole turkey dinner for Thanksgiving. Yes...I'm a traditionalist - at least this year.
As the day draws nearer, I realize that I still have these 4 stubborn pounds from 3 months ago that are hanging on my thighs and waist like flies on sticky tape.
So, today's Monday. I've decided to ration my calories for the next 3 days so I can enjoy all the fixins on Thanksgiving Day.
Here's what makes sense to me:
Breakfast: Whole Oatmeal (no packaged stuff) with 1 tablespoon raisins, cicinnamon, Truvia sweetner
Lunch: Can of tuna packed in water on crackers or bed of lettuce
Dinner: Romaine lettuce salad with Perdue Grilled Chicken breast slices & veggies
Snack: sugar-free chocolate pudding (yum)
Vary these combinations over the next couple of days. You get the idea about the types of foods to indulge in. Then on Thursday, you can have a little more + the sliver of cake & pie. Gobble, gobble!
In between zoning out, gazing through the stained glass windows and checking email messages on my Blackberry, I did absorb a beautiful message during this past Sunday's sermon at church. The message I walked out of the chapel with was: seek and ask not for stuff, but for the beautiful spirit that will attract that stuff. We've all heard, for years that "beauty comes from within", "beauty is as beauty does", and all the rest of that yada yada stuff. Sounds good, but do we really get it?
This remarkable concept isn't about religion at all. It's about "me-ligion"- the power to feel good inside...the ability to ignore the haters in your life...the chance to change the color & size of your halo and dictate the outcome of the rest of your fabulous life. Perhaps you've fallen into a bit of a self-blaming game - you know...where the unwritten rules require you to always think the worst about yourself because of what you think other people think of you. Today, the rules change for you.
In fact, they change right now. Ready to begin?
STEP ONE: Repeat after me - I AM BEAUTIFUL PERSON. I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT. I ATTRACT BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE and SITUATIONS. I AM A BEAUTIFUL PERSON.
Repeat that all day long. Write it down somewhere and say it all day long. Tonight you'll start to see a little growth where you've planted today's seed.
Yup, today's the 4th of July...Independence Day. I think we all know what this day historically represents to the nation, but what does it mean for you?
It was a tough question I awoke with this morning. Mmm..independence, freedom.
In order to really get clarity on that concept, I had to think of the contrary word. FEAR. Wow.
Clearly there are still fears that take my breath away. Fears that stomp my creativity and crush my ability to move up to that next level, where in my mind's eye - I'm always smiling, blissfully happy and making more money than I know what to do with.
I'll bet my bottom dollar that I'm not alone here, right?
So, what if today, we all vow to be free. I mean totally emancipated from at least 1 thought that's kept us paralyzed...stuck in the moment....unable to grab that damn dream. No more will we fantasize about what we want while making excuses for why it won't work.
Today will be my own Independence Day. All day, I'll silently chant that I am NOT my circumstances. I am NOT my frizzy hair. I am NOT my enlarged caboose (butt)...I am NOT afraid. Today I am free. Happy Independence Day to you too.
I can't tell you how many times I've been late to an event or date simply because I hated my outfit or couldn't style my hair perfectly. Nothing seemed to work...the slacks weren't fitting right...the top was blah...the jewelry looked trashy...the shoes weren't working. My hair just wouldn't fall properly...the curls wouldn't twist like I wanted them to...the ends seemed dry... no amount of hair goop could make my edges smooth and lay flat. You know the drill.
Funny thing is, my hair looked the same yesterday and the clothing...well... I'd matched up that same outfit before. Ok...time for a mental readjustment. Sometimes I just need to slap myself and realize that THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME.
The clothes and the hair don't make me. The most expensive Jimmy Choo's don't define how smart I am. The freshly brushed highlights in my hair won't help me win a deal. The pencil skirt I nabbed at Bloomingdale's wasn't going to give me the inner joy I needed to happy or to be a blessing to someone else that day.
Who cares that I have a curling iron burn on the side of my head or that my teeth aren't straight or that I have a few corns on my toes. Yes, I have flaws and I am the proud treasurer of the national Imperfection Club where there are millions of members. Today, though I'll release a genuine smile, look in the mirror and love what I see and embrace everything about me. Gee...I feel better already!
Yesterday was ruled as a "Murphy's Law" day. Everything that could have gone wrong.....well, you know how it ends. Ever wonder why some days you're on and other days you're totally off? Listen, I know that I'm not really in charge of all the events that come into my life-despite what I tell the universe. I do know, however that I'm 100% responsible for the way I react to those events.
Everyone has a "bad" day. We're all entitled to at least one every now and then. But if that 1 day turns into 2 or 3...it's time to put the brakes on and examine what's happening in our lives. Could be something you ate...or that time of the month...or your surroundings. Whatever it may be, it's up to us to uncover the root of our anxieties. I know I'll thrive if I could just figure out WHY I got ticked off. Once I've determined that, then I'll know how to handle the outcome...the emotions...my behavior.
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